In Schema Focused Therapy, schemas are deeply ingrained emotional patterns or core themes that shape how we view ourselves, other people, and the world. These schemas often originate in childhood when core emotional needs — such as safety, love, acceptance, and validation — were not consistently met. As we grow older, these unconscious patterns continue to color our experiences, often leading to emotional distress, self-sabotaging behaviors, or dysfunctional relationships.
Common schemas include feelings of abandonment, defectiveness, mistrust, emotional deprivation, failure, shame, subjugation, or unrelenting personal standards. People may unconsciously repeat these patterns in adult life, often reenacting early wounds with romantic partners, employers, or friendships. Over time, these schemas contribute to anxiety, depression, chronic emptiness, and difficulty maintaining healthy relationships.